The Journey Back

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You know the story, you wake up one day, you look at your life and wonder how did I get here? How did this happen? These days it feels taboo to talk about it. It feels like these day when we talk to people we are supposed to share only the photo opportunity worthy stuff, definitely not the struggles. Talking about such things is “negative” right?

Wrong. Taking about our struggles bind us, connects us and heal us. When we talk about our struggles we learn we are not alone and no, it does not have to be a woe is me fest. That is why I’ve decided to open up about things happening in my life.

In my experience from the greatest depths of darkness rise the brightest lights. Talking is a way to heal. Talking gets it out and creates room for the light, for the good, to grow and flourish.

It’s OK to talk about what’s wrong, that’s how you figure out how to fix it. Having problems, not being full of happy all the time, there is nothing wrong with that. It’s normal, despite society making us feel like our lives should be nothing but Instagram worthy moments.

Losing yourself is kind of like a riptide at the beach. You are hanging out with your friends in the water, then you look up and realize things around you look different. As you slowly get your baring, you feel the anxiety rising up from the pit of your stomach, your face flushes as you realize you are a long way down the beach from where you set up camp and you aren’t sure how you got here and are nervous about getting back.

It works the same with life. We get caught up in the day to day and lose focus on the big picture. We put ourselves, our needs on the back burner and put other priorities first and then one day we realize we have lost a part of ourselves. That is what happened at my house.

We got so caught up in life and work. We lost ourselves. We were just trying to make it day to day and barely keeping our heads above water. We were not living, we were surviving and there is no excuse for that. Life is too precious to waste. Our daughter’s childhood is too precious to waste. Our time together is too precious to waste. Something had to change.

Thus, earlier this year we decided we were done surviving versus thriving and we bit the bullet and decided to take some risks and make some changes and start down the path back to us, back to appreciating and enjoying life.

We are still a long way from the finish line, but we are learning and slowly but surely we are finding our way.

If you want to hear more about what we are learning, where we are succeeding and where we are failing, then follow me. If you know someone who could benefit or would appreciate the journey we are on, please share. And if you have a story to share, I’d love to hear it and maybe even share it, if you are open to it.

Stay tuned….more to come.

-Tonya

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